Does increasing our connections decrease our attachments or vice versa???

I am becoming more and more connected to more and more people via more and more networks every day. As the number of people that I am connected with and that I interact with increases... on Ecademy I am in the top 200 most connected networkers in the UK... Do I become more attached to 'others' or less??

Am I pulling energy from my network or pushing it in?

Have I saddled myself with more commitment or am I liberating myself through more options for engaging the right person, project or possibility??

By trying to make myself attractive am I inviting others into attachment? and the inevitable pain of separation.

"The fonder you are of your ideals, the greater your heart breaks."
Lin Yutang

"One afternoon, Nasruddin and his friend were sitting in a cafe, drinking tea and talking about life and love. His friend asked: 'How come you never married?'
'Well,' said Nasruddin, 'to tell you the truth, I spent my youth looking for the perfect woman. In Cairo I met a beautiful and intelligent woman, but she was unkind. Then in Baghdad, I met a woman who was a wonderful and generous soul, but we had no common interests. One woman after another would seem just right, but there would always be something missing. Then one day, I met her; beautiful, intelligent, generous and kind. We had very much in common. In fact, she was perfect!'
'So, what happened?' asked Nasruddin's friend, 'Why didn't you marry her?'
Nasruddin sipped his tea reflectively. 'Well,' he replied, 'it's really the sad story of my life.... It seemed that she was looking for the perfect man...' "



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Speakers, Is it cool to be nervous or not??

From my leaflet "TOP 10 Tips for Speakers"
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Tip No 1 - BE NERVOUS
It’s OK to be nervous. Anyone who says they speak well without nerves is either deceiving themselves, secretly an android or most probably a boring speaker!
NUMBER 1 PHOBIA
Fear of Public Speaking is reportedly the number 1 Phobia
EVIDENCE OF ENERGY
Nerves are the result of the body preparing itself to perform. They focus the mind and sharpen the senses.
MOTIVATES PREPARATION
Nerves remind us why we prepared so much or why we should have prepared much more. Preparation gives us direction for nervous energy.
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Do you agree with me or are you wrong on this point?