My Useful Beliefs

These beliefs are not necessarily true

They are Very Useful for understanding and influencing behaviour
I believe we must know our purpose, understand our natural drives and recognise our  human needs.

3 Keys to Purpose

A powerful Purpose facilitates Living in Flow (Positive Psychology)

Key #1 is Optimism Because Faith in the Future dramatically determines Performance in the Present It is incredibly important that we are optimistic It is incredibly important that every Parent, Coach, Mentor and Teacher be OPTIMISTIC <> Requires a clear and credible Vision

Key #2 is +ve Motivation Because every living creature, every woman, man, young woman, young man, every girl and boy is motivated to act, is designed for action and WILL do SOMETHING, influenced by both internal and external sources It is of utmost urgency that every parent, mentor, coach and teacher be an influential +VE MOTIVATOR <> Requires a powerful and persuasive Reason (Why?)

Key #3 is Service Because their is nothing new under the sun and because everyone is unique It is unquestionable and undeniable That every parent, mentor, coach and teacher must serve as both a follower and a leader <> Requires a self-confident and selfless Character

4 Natural Drives

The Push From Inside

The Drive for Safety <> Fear  <> Fight, Flight, Feed, F?

The Drive for Acquisition <> Desire <>  to Grow

The Drive for Inquiry <> Curiosity <>  to Learn

The Drive for Love <> Love <> of Self, of the Erotic, of Family & Friends, of Nature

3 Human Needs

There are 3 human needs
Each need has a tendency to one of 2 states
A moving away state - >avoid pain< and
A moving towards state - <seek pleasure>

The Pull from Outside

The need to Manage Change

<> The need to Control our world (Purpose) >Certainty< Comfort, Know what's happening, predictability, being in control, peace <Adventure> Dis-Comfort, Variety, surprise, being controlled, challenge

The need to Manage Identity

<> The need to Control Self (Self Esteem) >Connection< Being Loved, part of a team, conversation <Independence> Significance, maverick, silence

The need to Manage Value

<> The need to Control the Interaction between 'self' and 'the world' (Reason) >Receiving<  Growth, >gifts<, valuing, learning, following  <Contribution>  Giving, <presents>, being valued, teaching, leading

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